From time to time HE experiences the following pattern with her: SHE is “too busy” to want to date someone. It’s not that SHE doesn’t like him, but apparently it is too much for her emotionally to handle at that moment. And for some reason SHE ends up contacting HIM some weeks later – wanting to get to know HIM. This is something HE does not understand at all. HE asks himself: is this real? Please, can SHE explain why women are like this?
If a man tries to pursue a woman that has too many things going on, a reaction like this is common. He might be able to see her once a week and that’s it. But if she’s “not busy” anymore, his fon is ringing …
Now here is the catch. Up to a certain degree she is interested in you. You just didn’t wow her with fame, beauty, money or intelligent humor. She kind of puts you on hold. She didn’t hang up yet. There must have been something that attracted her – mabye just the feeling that you might be able to bring at least some fame, money or humor to the table. Consider yourself as a bench player right now. The last thing you want to do on the bench is to seem desperate, even if you are just trying to be friendly, she can see through that. Try to be as nonchalant. When approching her, keep in mind that you could care less what her response is. She won’t be attracted to you if you seem too needy.
Lets get this straight: Nobody is too busy when they find somebody they like. But women sometimes don’t want to be consumed by a realitionship. If she is “too busy”, it only means that she wants to decide when to start the date. In case she really is busy, she’ll still give you hints to make sure you know she is interested ;) If there is no such hint: meet someone else. It doesn’t make sense to wait on somebody who doesn’t have time for you.