Some say that love is the only real treasure of being human. I totally agree. But because we only live once we shouldn’t waist too much time for experiments just to find our perfect match. Here are the 3 types of lovers. Pick the best fitting type for yourself and find out about your best potential mate. But don’t forget: you carry all 3 characters within you. To a certain degree everybody of us is a dreamer, a sceptic, a workoholic, a people pleaser. The question is only, which one is dominating …

Lover #1: The Dreamers and Fantasizers.

Emotions are the main ingredience of a dreamers personality. A dinner is not just about eating. It is about being romantic with candle lights, a rose on the table and a good red wine. The conversation will be about the bright future only … Lets see how much dreamer is in you:

Romeo from London had a brief affair with Juliett – a beautiful young woman from New York – when he was on vacation. It was just for an extended weekend. They spent three glorious nights together making love and exploring Manhattan. They exchanged fon numbers and kept calling each other for a while. Most of the time it was him calling her. Not really listing to Julietts reality-based remarks Romeo continued fantasizing that one day they would meet again and take up where they left off. Six years later he somehow managed it to convince her to meet again. He knew that she got married, divorced and married again by now and had a four year old daughter. But for some reason Romeo didn’t believe it. Reality didn’t fit in his dreams. Joining her for a coffee in Paris he lamented: “I came back because I think you are the woman I want to be married with!” The date ended in an almost screaming fight in a public cafe. She made it clear: while he spent six years of fantazising about their brief romance she continued living her own life, had a series of relationships, got married twice, is raising a child now …

Do you keep watering your garden of wild expectations and fantasies on a daily basis? Is your aim to change your partners character? Are you easily crushed from time to time? Do you avoid hard confrontations? Every YES brings you closer to be a Dreamer. But relax. People love you for that :) It is in our nature to adore people with the ability to give hope. Not so with the next type of lover:

Lover #2: The Skeptic and Shy.

A shy person never has a relationship and a sceptic at least it is not a long lasting one. Skeptics actually don’t believe in love. Shy are too shy for love. Being a type 2 lover is a killer for men. The opposite gender can consider themselves lucky, because there’s a man for every woman. Type 2 lovers might be intelligent, funny or charming. But when it comes to the point of no return they mostlikely fall apart – blaming themselves for not being confident enough.

Lover #3: The Workoholic.

Type 3 lovers would rather share activities than love. They have high demands for their partners and they are very busy.
Jason is married for 15 years … with his job. At home he has a second office in which he spends most of the evenings while his wife Janis amuses herself with the children or in the gym with her girlfriend. Jason manages it to take her out for dinner at least once a week. But they don’t talk about anything serious. Janis is fine with that. She knows that Jason needs her as a showpiece ofr public occasions, and she actually likes it to be with him when he needs a trophy wife on his arm. Once a year Jason, Janis and her two children go on vacation. But this time away from work does not turn into a time for emotional connection. Instead they run from one activity to the another. At least they come back home with photos – taken to show the world what a wonderful family there make.

The first trace of an action we consider Swinging has been found in the 16th century. There is written evidence that a formal arrangement was signed by John Dee and his wife Jane with Edward Kelley and his wife Joanna in 1587, whereby conjugal relations would be shared between the men and their spouses. The first “Swingers Community” set up in Prague in the 17th century. Temporary spouse-trading was commonly advocated and practised among occultists and alchemists in Bohemia. It is proven that the Frankists establish similar ceremonies in Greece in the mid-18th century. The Donmeh (cult) now converted the Shabbatain Purim into an annual orgy, when members exchanged spouses for a ceremony called ‘extinguishing the lights … Once a year, during the Doenmes’ annual ‘Sheep holiday’, the candles are put out in the course of a dinner which is attended by orgies and the ceremony of the exchange of wives.”

Swingers in the 20th century

According to Terry Gould’s Book The Lifestyle, modern noncultic swinging began among Air Force pilots and their wives during World War II. and during the Korean War. The mortality rate of pilots was high. The author reports that a close bond arose between pilots, with the implication that husbands would care for all the wives as their own, emotionally and sexually, if the husbands were away or lost. By the time the Korean War ended, with the help of articles in newspapers and reports on radio swinging made its way from the military to the suburbs. The media  simply dubbed the wife-swapping phenomenon.

The Sexual Freedom League became the first swingers’ organization. Founded in 1960 in Berkeley, CA by a student named Robert McGinley, it soon turned into an umbrella organization called the North American Swing Club Association – NASCA (now NASCA International) which was formed to disseminate information about swinging across the U.S. Today swinging is accepted as a lifestyle and practiced by appr. 4 million Americans. But wife-swapping was not only en vogue in the United States. Society in the United Kingdom experienced the proliferation of “wife swapping” groups in the 70s too.

The history of the word “swinging” has evolved with society. Originally deemed “wife swapping,” swinging was anything but, and in fact empowered the female. Over time “wife swapping” changed to “swinging”, and recently to “lifestyle.” By definition swinging, is non-monogamous sexual activity, often treated as a social activity, that can be experienced as a couple. Swinging has matured into a much more selective and lifestyle driven process in modern society. Today’s swingers enjoy the luxury of meeting new playmates in a wide variety of methods. Swingers clubs and lifestyle groups, swinger dating websites, private house parties and hotel takeover parties are just a few of the avenues couples in the lifestyle are able to meet and enjoy other swingers in their area.
People who swing come from all economic tiers of society, from every job classification, race and nationality. But the majority are Caucasian and married. Swingers tend to be adventuresome, emotionally mature and have excellent relationships with their mates and friends. Single women involved in the lifestyle are affectionately called Unicorns for their rarity. In the past, there have been very few women swingers, this has changed however, with the increase of sexual boldness and independence of modern women. Bisexuality plays a great role in the lifestyle of a swinging woman, and with the versatility it brings to their sexual expression, the greater reward they reap in enjoyment.

Recent statistics show that 20% of all married Americans swing, and 90% of swingers are married. Most couples that enter the swinging lifestyle do so not because their relationship isn’t working, but just the opposite. The couples already boast a strong foundation in trust, understanding, communication and love. Swinging allows them to explore sexual and emotional feelings together, thus taking cheating and infidelity out of the relationship. It must be understood that swinging is not a band-aid for a bad relationship, and will likely destroy one that is not strong enough to support the lifestyle.

Often there is concern that swinging might be unsafe and at high risk for catching sexually transmitted diseases. This is not true whatsoever, as swingers are able to enjoy sexual freedom by practicing and preaching safe sex. Reports have shown that swingers clubs and are not high risk areas for STD. Most swingers are prepared with their own contraceptives, while almost every on-premise swingers club or offers condoms.

For anyone interested in swinging your choices of how to get involved are nearly limitless. Unlike the antiquated swinger publications, swinger websites have bridged the gap and made meeting other swingers quick, easy and as anonymous as you’d like. Your first step in finding swingers in your area is to create a personal ad. Muah.com offers this service and provides members with the ability to search other swinger ads, filter your preferences and interact via a live video chat room. Many times members will post private parties or events in the forum for any local swingers to attend. Private parties and club events is an excellent way to meet many other swingers in a short period of time, and in a relaxed no-pressure environment. However, admission to these events are usually limited to club members and for first-timers admission can be quite expensive. Making friends through a swinger site will help facilitate the relationships that open doors to many local lifestyle opportunities. Local clubs frequently have meet and greets for new members, and will host events to entice higher membership. Whichever method you decide is best suited for you, just remember to have fun and always put your partner first and foremost.

Avoid all contact with your ex. Do not call, IM, email, morse code, smoke signal your ex. You will experience a set back to day #1 of your break up when you meet her again. If it help channelizing your crazy thoughts start playing a game with yourself. Try to figure out the geo-distance between you and her at any moment. And think to yourself: the more miles away from her, the better I feel.

Check out new stuff. Connect somewhere else. Keep yourself as busy as possible. Become obsessed with a new project. Do something you always wanted to do but make sure it involves other people.

Try to control your mind by finding out when you think about her and find ways to break this pattern. It is like being hungry. You can control this feeling? Your are mentally strong!

No serious relationships for awhile! You need to be mentally strong first. Women don’t like weak men. Throw yourself into parties but not with the idea to find somebody healing your wounds.

A really tricky thing is the missing a sex partner. But the power of the ex will be greatly diminished when you find a way to get rid of your sexual emotions. Everything is allowed. One-night-stands, making girls drunk, paying for sex, masturbating after a porn movie … it’ll all help a huge lot.

A key moment to check out where you are is an accidental run into your ex. Depending on how strong you feel in that situation: , smile and roll out or have a small talk. Under all circumstances leave her guessing what you’ve been up to recently. It’s not her business anymore. This way you save yourself a lot of pain even if the afterburner is going to screw you up again. It won’t be as bad again, promised. This little unexpected self torture might even help you getting back on track. Because very often you cannot avoid contact to your ex forever unless you are willing to move to the opposite coast.

#2: Kissing burns calories. It will burn 25 to 30 calories per kiss. Use the tongue too ;)

#3: Sex burns between 150 and 200 calories. So doing it all night can be fun and and good excercise.

#4. Mens cum contains zinc and calcium, both of which are proven to prevent tooth decay. That’s why I suggest: you must swallow!

#5. Humans are not the only ones who like oral sex. Hyenas, goats and cheetahs do it as well.

#6. Coffee makes cum taste bitter while melons makes it taste less strong.

#7. On average a man has 10.2 sex partners in his life , a woman only 4.8

#8: Homosexuality remained on the American Psychiatric Association’s list of mental illnesses until 1973.

#9: In Hong Kong, adulterous husbands get more than a steep monthly alimony payment. A betrayed wife is legally allowed to kill her husband if he cheats on her. But she may only do so with her bare hands.

#10: The author Bernice Kanner claims that an average adult man thinks about sex every 10 seconds. Wrong. Let’s go with 10 times per day ;)

Mikes Reviews on Swinger Communities